Clearing the fog

You know that feeling in the morning, when you’d rather have complete silence until the morning coffee has had a chance to kick in? 
Or have you ever found the car keys in the fridge? 
Felt paranoid at work, or doubting yourself?

You’re not alone. Many women feel this during menopause.
It’s not just an issue of low energy and lack of sleep, it can be compounded by brain fog, too. A cotton-wool cloud of uncertainty and indecision is often a bitter appetiser for another common menopause symptom; anxiety.

I’ve had many women tell me it’s these somewhat invisible symptoms, which are the hardest to deal with. As a busy woman with a lot on your plate, it can be tricky to know what’s attributable to menopause, or a full diary and a demanding family. 
Some clients have confided their fears to me, saying; “I was scared it might be early dementia” (there is an easy way to know the difference between this and menopause, I’ll tell you later). First, let me reassure you that although brain fog, anxiety are other cognitive issues are extremely common, there are many things you’re able to do, to help yourself. 

Why are brain fog and forgetfulness a symptom of menopause?

Foggy head, forgetting what you were going to say, questioning yourself, words on the tip of your tongue, losing focus, unable to concentrate. Then worrying about how it’s affecting day to day life, fighting through the day and hoping it will improve somehow.  Brain fog and anxiety can be debilitating. 

It’s a ‘perfect storm scenario’, starting with hormonal changes in peri-menopause which affect sleep patterns, energy, memory and brain efficiency. 
Oestrogen, progesterone, follicle stimulating hormone (FSH) aren’t just about fertility and menopause, they’re the original multi-taskers of the body. These hormones also have a role in cognitive health, and some women’s brains are affected by the menopausal fluctuations more keenly than others. 

Oestrogen is often the hormone that gets the limelight here and for good reason. As a neuro-protective hormone, it serves to give protection to nerves and brain circuitry against degeneration.
Also consider that oestrogen assists with building new neural connections, for learning and memory. And you can start to see how reduced concentration of circulating oestrogen can be felt at brain fog.

Why do I feel more anxious?

Anxiety is a repercussion of your whole body being on ‘full alert’ for disaster, waiting for the tiger to leap out at you. No tiger? Oh yes there is. It’s called email alerts from work, phone reminders about what you still need to do, messages from the family, and the list goes on.

Your natural stress management system (the adrenal glands) are doing their best to manage the levels of cortisol and adrenaline as a response to all this potential threat (real or perceived). And your adrenals are also a key player in hormonal balance, for the production of hormones which promote calmness and sleep. 

When you get tired, have trouble sleeping (e.g hot sweats, snoring partners, ruminating, waking up early and not getting back to sleep), wake up groggy-eyed and then drink coffee… we all know it’s a temporary plaster on a problem at that moment. But unfortunately, there is a cost. 

Stimulants like caffeine ask the adrenal glands to do even more work for you, releasing more stress hormones, maintaining the need to stay on ‘high alert’. 
The more busy these glands are, the more likely you are to feel anxious. Many clients have told me how much better they feel, for drinking more water and less coffee, even though they were convinced they needed the coffee!
And whilst we’re talking about tiredness, let’s just mention it’s not always caused by a physical tiredness – it can also be a feeling of being ‘tired of’ the situation you’re in. I know of many 40+ women who can relate to that feeling. 

How do you know if it’s menopause, or dementia?

The correct term for the foggy head feeling, or being a bit forgetful, is MCI (mild cognitive impairment).
For women in menopause, it is temporary. 
Dementia is characterised by an increasing disorientation, difficulty in communication and basic life skills like cooking, dressing. Or forgetting how to carry out everyday tasks that you’re usually competent in, like driving the car for example.

It is important to note that MCI is not the same as dementia but there are some overlaps, and there are many things we can all be doing as preventative measures against the risks of it becoming a problem now, or in later life. If you are looking for further reading here, a good reference would be the book ‘Why isn’t my brain working?’ by Datis Kharrazian. 

Menopause can affect us in so many different ways, but it doesn’t need to be a disempowering experience. 
The hormonal changes are inevitable but the transition can be smoothed when we take into consideration the environment in which the hormones are sitting in… you. 
You see, menopause symptoms – cognitive symptoms included – don’t present themselves solely because of hormone decline.
Hormones aren’t released into a vacuum, they’re secreted into your body. With many other factors and variables at play, many of which, you’re able to do something about.

What can you really do, about mild cognitive impairement?

Whilst many women in my facebook community ask me for quick tips and remedies for this and other menopausal symptoms, I always seek to empower with the knowledge of ‘body systems over symptoms’, rather than encourage a pick n mix approach to supplements and the like. 
Targeted supplements can be useful, but not until you’ve first built the foundations for overall hormonal balance. It’s not at all as laborious as it sounds, as I’ll explain below. 

There has also been much discussion elsewhere on the use of hormone therapy (HRT, body identical hormones), as a way to preserve our cognitive health. Recommended reading includes ‘Oestrogen Matters’ (written by Dr A. Bluming and C. Tarvis). 
However, there is no substitute for nourishing the brain (and body; it’s all attached) with the specifics of appropriate food, movement, and all that I’ve listed below. Dr Lisa Mosconi made reference to this in her popular TED talk (well worth watching if you haven’t already) and her recent book (The XX Brain) is an absolute treasure trove of valuable advice, too.

Brain fog and anxiety – what can I do to help myself, today?

Exercise
Poor vascular health leads to reduced blood flow to the brain.
In order to prevent hormonal changes from taking the upper hand, daily movement really is a non-negotiable. 

It doesn’t mean you need to join a gym and take up a new sport, however. Many of my clients use the daily dog walk as part of their de-stress and exercise time.
As a former Personal Trainer, I’ve an unlimited supply of ideas to add in a few bodyweight exercises, without it feeling like an extra chore to fit into the day. 
This study talks about the benefits of exercise and movement, for protecting our cognitive health. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/27562941

Food
As a woman in menopause or even post-menopause, general ‘healthy eating’ advice is no longer specific enough for you!
Don’t panic, it’s not all about wheatgrass and weird organic vegetables you can’t get hold of. It’s simple really.
First things first, how much water are you drinking? If it’s less than 1.5 – 2 litres, then I definitely recommend increasing your intake – whilst gradually reducing any stimulants. Small, manageable changes are definitely more beneficial here.

Food choices to support the brain include vegetables – more so than fruit (particularly green leafy vegetables), oily fish, beans, nuts, seeds, berries, poultry, olive oil. You also need a source of protein and natural fat with every meal. For example eggs, salmon, lean meat, pulses.
Food choices shown to increase the risks for brain fog and anxiety include sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and simple carbohydrates like bread, cereal, granola, pasta. 

Use it, or lose it!
Your brain will adapt and respond well, if you give it the chance.
Brain health is dependent upon nutrition but equally so on stimulus.
There really is potential for neurogenesis (generating new brain cells) even at menopause – you can teach an old dog new tricks!
We’re talking about picking up an old hobby, learning a new instrument or a language, 5 minute ‘brain-training’ games, interaction with nature. Also, fulfilling and stimulating conversation, being part of a community, feeling heard and understood.

Sleep and Rest
Sleep is a busy time for the brain to process and run its clearing systems, so that you’re able to function properly the following day.
It goes without saying that a poor night’s sleep results in reduced focus and productivity, with further impacts on food choices (which then compound the issue). 

I encourage all my clients to ‘book end’ their day, to have a regular routine (even a few minutes) which essentially helps you to power-up and then power-down at the start and end of the day.
Please get in touch if you’re struggling with sleep, I have many strategies I can share with you in a consultation.
Rest and time to recharge yourself is equally important, as it allows the brain to flip the switch into ‘thrive’ mode rather than fight/flight/freeze.

Detox
Not a dodgy diet, but a reference to detoxing yourself of unhelpful behaviours, beliefs, patterns, thoughts that are holding you back.
Now is the time to practise self-compassion over self-criticism. To build hormonally helpful habits with baby-steps. And to listen to your gut instinct about what really matters to you. 

Stress and worry don’t remain simply as a thought, they seep out into the brain and affect the body physically and mentally. There are so many things on our list of ‘controlables’ but what could you let go of? What could you accept as ‘out of your hands’?
Keep this in mind; small and consistent will always beat bold and chaotic.

To summarise – What definitely helps with cognitive ability in menopause?

Hobbies and brain training games
Sleep routines
Regular down-time and time off
Meditation and breathwork
Anti-inflammatory foods
Three meals a day without snacks
Community, love and support
Touch (for the benefits of oxytocin)
Movement and exercise to stimulate blood flow
Less sugar (to discourage the insulin-rollercoaster)
Less multi-tasking
Having animals in the home
Being in nature and in tune with seasonal and diurnal patterns
Hormone therapy where appropriate and as a personal/medical choice
Take action before you notice symptoms!

Need more help and advice?

Send your questions to info@angiegarton.com

April 2021

It’s more than ‘just’ menopause

It’s more than ‘just’ menopause

Some days it feels to me like the whole world is shifting on its axis. And at times I’m both scrabbling to keep up, and very much content with doing things my way.

I mean, apart from the obvious global shifts that have happened in the last 12 months, my period cycle has changed. I noticed some uncomfortable self-consciousness creeping in a little, and the ways in which I settle myself is far removed from how things used to be.

My energy feels different just lately. Not good or bad, just different.
I look at photos from barely five years ago and I’m genuinely shocked to see how much my face has changed.

But the windows still need to be cleaned. My parents still piss me off sometimes, and I still don’t know how to change the clock in my car.
I often catch my thoughts, and it feels like I’ve never changed (do you ever stop feeling 23, on the inside?!)

And yet, I feel shifts within myself, on my axis, about who I am.
And who I want to be. 
It’s deep and at times uncomfortable and yet I welcome it in, in so many ways.
I have conversations about this with my mentors and I feel very grateful to have such beautiful people in my life to share it with. 

I talk about it with clients and we find similarities in feelings, of deep desires resurfacing, of wanting more for ourselves. I encourage it because this is the real ‘deep work’ that your body is nudging you to do.

It’s no longer just about ‘loss and decline’ of hormones, it becomes all about what’s to gain from the process of turning inwards.
Not in a ‘woe is me’ kind of way, but in a compassionate and supportive ‘what can I learn from this?’ kind of way.

I genuinely love it.

Menopause. Midlife.

It’s so much more than hot flushes and wonky periods.
It’s even more than the sugar binges, the tears, the rollercoaster of hormones.

I have skills and strategies to help you with those things, to gain practical knowledge to help yourself, but my true calling is in helping you nurture yourself, in a way that goes beyond the surface level.

Soul nurturing.

It’s like a feeling of getting back to yourself, an unwavering acceptance and confidence, a way of nurturing what’s truly in your heart.

When we talk more about those deeper things, we also find that the hormones and emotions, the weight gain and tiredness, are naturally smoothed out too, because they’re all contained within a unique package… you.

I’d love to help you more with all this. When you’re ready, get in touch by using the contact details below



February 2021

The four most dangerous words for any woman going through menopause

The four most dangerous words for any woman going through menopause

Not many women ask me about menopause directly, but they do ask me about;

-how to get rid of the uncomfortable weight around the middle,

-how to sleep through the night,

-how to have more energy,

-how to stop feeling such rage and irritation

So we could say, it’s not menopause itself that’s the problem, it’s the symptoms that are associated with it.

Especially when we really get talking about what’s really going on, namely:

-Not feeling attractive and worrying that your partner feels the same way

-Hating yourself and who you’re becoming (my client’s words, not mine)

-Fearful that it’s only going to get worse / not knowing when it’s going to improve

-Losing confidence

-A dwindling interest in the things that used to bring joy and pleasure

-Feeling lost within yourself

-Worrying about heart and brain health (that HRT is often said to solve)

I can help you with all those things, in our online community (Finding Yourself In Menopause)

But there’s another problem.
Because when we talk about symptoms, there’s a tendency to talk a lot about hormones, the decline, the changes, the deficiencies, the imbalances.

Which is fine, but the thing is – if I only focus on the hormones with a client, the symptoms will persist and she will NEVER feel the way she really wants to about herself.

How can this be true?

Allow me to introduce to you, the four most dangerous words….

“It’s. Not. That. Bad”

Why so dangerous?

Because those four little words keep you stuck in the concentric circles within yourself.

If you say those words to me, I already know I can’t help you with whatever we’re talking about, because you’ve decided (and I respect your choice) that you’re going to tolerate whatever problem you’ve got.

And that’s a real shame, because we both know, it won’t go away on its own.

I know it’s a coping mechanism, a way to get through the week, you’re just trying to live your life.

But at the end of the day, tolerating stuff, just keeps you stuck.

I can talk about this with clients in detail because I’ve had so much experience of it over the years – with myself!

I can also say; opening pandora’s bs box, admitting you need to do something about a problem, takes courage and then strategy, so that you don’t end up fuelling the fire of self-loathing.

So my advice to you right now, is to start noticing when you hear yourself saying something like ‘it’s not that bad’

It might also be disguised and show up as;

“I’m fine” (usually accompanied by an avoidance of eye contact, lol)
“I’ve no real reason to feel like this”
“I’ve been through worse”

These are all alarms and warning lights that come on when something is being ignored, missed, tolerated at the expense of your life experience!

Before you decide whether you’re going to change your mind on that, or not. Before you decide what you might be able to do about it, try to notice when it appears and ask yourself if it’s really true.

I’m here ready to help you with the rest.

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Soulful strategies for hormonal balance

Soulful strategies for hormonal balance

Nurturing my adventurous spirit to increase resilience in menopause. 

I feel it in my soul, even on the dull rainy days. 
It’s not just about ‘getting a bit of fresh air’. Not for me, and I doubt for you either.

Being in nature lifts me up in a different way than an afternoon on the sofa (which I also love to do at weekends).
It speaks to my adventurous side, and cultivates a source of strength that I don’t think I’ve fully leveraged, yet.

Of course, there’s the practical element of ticking another job off the list.
Like taking the dog for a walk. Posting a letter. Or just getting the steps in.

But there’s another layer to it, which I’m noticing as more and more essential to not only me but for every 40+ woman I speak with.  Women who feel a bit lost, on the inside. Feeling the hormonal shifts and not always liking who they’re becoming. 

I’ve been at that place too; not feeling comfortable in my own skin. Wanting to either go back, or press the fast-forward.
Either way, not enjoying who I am. Never quite feeling content with myself, never really feeling enough.
I still have to be careful even now, that I actively reject the compulsion for comparionitis. 

When I look ahead now, towards my upcoming peri-menopausal years, I know there’s a part of me that’s been waiting in the wings, that I know will help me through. 
I’m making the effort to take on peri-menopause as an adventure, thinking of myself as an endurance athlete going all-in, for life. 
I’m not referring to myself as an athlete in terms of exercise – I mean, my approach to life is about taking on the long-game, not a sprint. Not a quick fix.
I know it all sounds a bit whimsical but give me a minute and you might understand where I’m coming from.
It might just help you, too.

Being outdoors gives me perspective, a different kind of outlook that helps me to make decisions – from what to have for lunch, to what I want the next 12 months of my life to be about.
It’s not just about feeling the sun (or the rain!) on my face, it’s not always about slowing down and breathing deeper, either. 

Sometimes I’ll find my mind racing with ideas when inspiration hits. Or I’ll step away from my desk in frustration, and surprise myself with a surge of confidence when I come to it later.
Clarity comes to me with a backdrop of big skies. Decisions feel easier to make, and I’m somehow more willing to trust my own mind. Have you ever felt that?

I could talk to you about the hormonal benefits of being in nature; for managing stress hormones, improving my cortisol curve for better energy and sleep, encouraging calming progesterone to have it’s say.
The benefits of oxytocin from the connection to myself and others. The ‘getting away from it all’ even just for a few minutes, as decompression from screen time and my dopamine filled brain.

Whilst I love all the science behind it, sometimes intuition and personal experience feels a stronger pull.
Even if n=1, when you’re the ‘one’, then how you feel is every bit as valid as any science report.
It’s more than simple common sense, being outdoors gives a deeper feeling of nourishing myself from the inside out.

Going further with this idea of adventure, and looking to my clients past and present… I see that every single one who came to me under a cloud of anxiety, low confidence, emotional outbursts at home and work… they all felt better, mental health symptoms lifted, physical problems were alleviated, by cultivating this feeling of adventure.

It isn’t always outdoors, but it is always about rediscovering and then exploiting your own boldness, my clients (and me!) often surprising themselves with it. Like trying out a new hobby, or joining a new fitness class.
Saying no more often. And feeling more in control of what happens, when they say yes.
It almost always snowballs and the results are often huge.

Trusting themselves more, small decisions create new experiences.
The elusive mojo returns, there is renewed energy, a sense of purpose reinvigorated, more hope and faith.
I often feel like I’m speaking to an entirely different woman from just a few weeks before.

For me, I’m encouraging my own adventures in a similar way (not all of them outdoors);
to explore new friendships, grow my own herbs, learn a new piece on the piano, go back to a childhood hobby, weekday picnics, walk barefoot, wild swimming.

No matter how small, these new experiences feel exciting to me, they give me focus outside of my problems and struggles. Not in a way to distract myself from my worries, but to encourage more from myself, to inspire myself and to be inspired by others and things around me.
It feels so warm and welcoming to recognise these glowing embers inside me.

Doing something adventurous, even if to someone else it sounds laughable, it feels to me like the antidote to anxious thoughts and middle of the night ruminations.
It directs my thoughts, pushes at my own boundaries and reminds me that I’ve much more to give, much more to feel.

I want to continue feeding this part of me that feels so attuned to the natural world around me, it feels such an important observation of myself.

Have you ever stopped or slowed down, to think deeply about yourself like this?

What did you find?

If you’ve not yet joined our online community – Finding Yourself In Menopause – then be sure to check out the link. It’s available to all women who are feeling overwhelmed and unsure about what to do, to feel more in control again.

And if you’re ready for a private chat, to have a one to one consultation to find the solutions to feeling more like yourself, just click the link below to get in touch:
https://angiegarton.com/contact-us/

September 2020

 

If you’re having regular periods (and also over 40), here’s what I would do:

If you’re having regular periods (and also over 40), here’s what I would do:

August 2020

1.) Look past the horror stories you might have heard, or what you remember your mum / aunt / sister, going through.
It’s different for every woman, and you have much more control than you’re often led to believe.

2.) Start to put some time aside each week for fun, me-time and mini-adventure.
This might be a walk with a podcast, a cup of tea on the beach / garden, prepping veg and dancing in the kitchen every Sunday, or something more daring.
It doesn’t matter, as long as it feels like effortless fun to you and is FOR YOU.

3.) Upgrade your meals
Vegetables are a priority now. Eating for your hormones doesn’t need to be complicated – and you don’t need to be vegan – but you do need to put more veg on your plate, than anything else.

4.) Detox (your head) like a mofo.
When you notice your thoughts and internal / external conversations are less than helpful – do what you can to change them.
Don’t buy into everything your head comes up with.

5.) Accept that you have a choice.
You can do this on your own, or you can get some help (whatever that means to you).
‘Put up and get on with it’ is as dry and outdated for your health, as eating weetabix and low fat yoghurt.

6.) Start to get savvy on what hormones are really all about.
I mean, beyond the horror stories, the symptoms and beyond the messy periods.
You could even buy the Womanual, instead of trying to navigate the eleventy billion hits you get from Dr Google.

I’m giving you this advice, not just because I’m qualified to give it, not just because I’ve SEEN it help my clients,
but also, because this first line above, describes ME.

I only ever give advice that I myself would be willing to follow, and advice that will actually make a difference.